I hear it all the time.
“I really want to do a Boudoir Session, but…”
I need to get in shape first.
My body isn’t ready yet.
I recently put on weight.
I need my “summer body” first.
I just need to lose X more pounds.
Spoiler alert:
Your brain is being a butthead.
When it comes to this kind of self-talk, we justify it all day long. We argue that it’s about getting healthy, becoming stronger, and achieving personal goals (all worthy pursuits, of course). But if you don’t love & accept your body as it is, right now in this moment, you’re going to have a long road ahead.
We often think that by reaching Goal A, we will achieve Feeling B. But Feeling B isn’t a guarantee. The truth is, you might never feel _______ enough. However, you do have the power to choose how to feel — right now — and see what unfolds because of that mindset.
And it all starts with how you speak to yourself.
Next time those thoughts pop into your head, try these on for size:
“I can do a boudoir session at any time, regardless of my weight or size.”
“I love my body right now, even if I haven’t reached my goal weight / fitness level yet.”
“I’m a work in progress, and I embrace that.”
“My inner beauty always radiates, regardless of the shape + size of my hips & thighs.”
This exercise works for virtually anything you don’t feel qualified or “ready” for. Put ’em on Post-Its, say ’em out loud, write ’em with your finger on the steamy bathroom mirror — the point is: Flip the script & watch what happens.
It comes down to this: I want you to love yourself better. Trust me — I have PLENTY of days where I don’t love my body, but I still choose to show up & do what I feel called to do. Join me, will you?
